Begin Again

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Begin again. Everyone makes mistakes. Even with the best of intentions, sometimes we as people don’t do as well as we would have liked. Maybe you didn’t put the time in, maybe you said too much, maybe you said to little. Maybe you had a bad attitude, maybe you didn’t act in love. Begin again. Right this very moment- Begin again.

Don’t Build Walls

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The walls you build to protect you from looking foolish, may just be the ones that block your ability to truly enjoy living and laughing.

Ever found yourself limiting sharing all of who you are in an effort to not look foolish? What about fearing what your mate will think? Marriage is not the place to build walls. Design a relationship where you are free to be yourselves and can laugh in the comfort of each other.

With love and blessings,

Sadie

Attitude is Everything!

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Enjoying your relationship is impacted greatly by your attitude- your way of thinking and feeling about something. You get to decide if the work you put into your marriage is fun, worthwhile, and important or drudgery that is unnecessary. Marriage takes work, but the work can be fun and enjoyable! What attitude will you have about your relationship? How will you show it?

Enjoy Marriage Back to Basics Challenge

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A new year  is once again upon us. As the hustle and bustle of the holiday season winds down and the excitement of New Year’s resolutions also wind down, many people find themselves reflecting. Reflecting upon themselves, their relationships, their goals, and sometimes even feeling down for not being where they want to be. Many people find that their relationships especially their marriage relationship is not where they wanted to be.  After many days weeks or even months of not quite getting as much attention as needed or being back burner-ed, people often find  their relationships in a state of needed TLC.  Are you in a similar place?

It’s time to get back to basics. Make a decision to take just a little time out of your busy schedule to focus on your relationship and learn to enjoy marriage. Over the next few weeks, watch for regular posts of small but majorly significant things that you can do to improve your marriage. Will you take the Enjoy Marriage Getting Back to Basics daily challenge? Start now. Have these posts delivered directly to you.  Be sure to enter your information below.

Take Charge of Your Life

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Are you in charge of your life or is life in charge of you? That can seem like a silly question but the truth is – many times we run around handling things, situations and people that are not on our planed list.  They are not even on the radar of what is important to us.  At the beginning of a new year, some people make “New Year’s Resolutions”- unfortunately by now, many people are beating themselves up for resolutions that have already been broken.  In this article we will take a look at one of the ways we can set ourselves up to succeed in the areas that are most important to us. 

Are you familiar with the 80/20 rule?  It is also known as Pareto’s Principle.  It states that 20% of what we do produces 80% of the results.  Need a few examples?

20% of the area in our houses require 80% of the cleaning

20% of your clients or projects  require 80% of your time

or

80% of free time is spent on things that only provide 20% or less of desired results

It’s important to remind ourselves not to get bogged down on low-value activities that are not that important to us and instead stay focused on high-value 20%!

Our goals, faith, dreams, desires, morals, and families – those are the important things in the grand scheme of life.  While we are not always in a position to spend all of our time directly on the things that are the most important to us – we can consciously choose to give those important things, those high payoff items – decicated time.  What we must do is find the high payoff tasks and work on those first or at a minimum schedule time to ensure they get done.   

Tips for High Payoff Items

Set a time for completing the task.  Saying I will go on a date with my husband is not good enough.  Setting a date, time and making arrangements increases the chances that you will accomplish this high payoff item.

Set a deadline.  Is there something essential that needs repair or attention?  Is it causing a bottleneck in productivity?  Do you keep saying you will get to it yet you don’t?  Give yourself a deadline.  Either make that deadline or explore other options for getting the job done. 

Need an example?  Let’s say the garbage disposal is broken.  It’s causing a slow drain and smells in the kitchen. Your wife has been waiting for its repair but it is slowing her down.  Your might think – just scrape the food in the trash, and use the other sink – however there is more at play here.  Unless you do things the same way she does with the same frequency you may not understand the build of trash, the mess that must be cleaned from leaky bags the children helped empty or the dog ripped into.  If it’s important to your spouse –it needs to be important to you.  Keeping your word sends the messages – you are important to me, and you can count on me.

Divide and conquer.  Some tasks are so large they are easy to keep putting off.  Have you committed to a special project with your child? Break the project into smaller steps that require less time. Example- did you promise to redo a room or build something but the room is a wreck?  Tasks to be done together in smaller chunks of time might include designing the project, selecting colors, cleaning, organizing, etc.  You don’t have to dedicate a whole weekend (while you could) when you do it little by little. 

 

You don’t have to beat yourself up or give up on the things that are important to you.  Decide to focus on what’s important to you by giving those high payoff items the time they deserve!

 

Love and blessings,

 

Sadie

Is your marriage on your todo list? It should be!

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The age old advice of planning for tomorrow today also applies to your marriage and family relationships.   How many times have you heard quotes like:

"Fail to plan and you plan to fail."

"A wise man thinks ahead; a fool doesn't, and even brags about it. Proverbs 13:16"

"Success tomorrow begins today"

For some personalities creating and following a plan comes naturally and with ease. For other personalities it is more difficult to plan ahead or stick with a plan.  Regardless to where you fall personality wise, everything can be made better in the long run with a plan.  Your relationships are no different.  

I know your family relationships are important to you. Many of you have shared that your husbands, wives, and children are the reasons why you do everything you do. It's not their importance in question. The question for you to consider today is : "How have I planned to show my husband or wife or child that they are important to me tomorrow?" (Of course it's not to late to consider today)

You see, so much happens over the course of a day, a week, a month – that before you realize it – time has flown by and you may not have shown those that you love most how important they are.  It doesn't have to take long or cost a dime. Make sure you add your loved ones to your to do list today.  

5 Simple Ways To Show Your Loved Ones They Are Important

1. Schedule a little time everyday to spend with them.  Even 5 minutes just chatting about the day makes a big difference.  

2. Leave them quick little notes to find. Things like: You're the best!  I'm thankful you're mine. Or I love You!  

3. Do something helpful like pack a special snack, wash the dishes, or shovel snow from the car.  

4. When you spend time with them- give them your undivided attention.  

5. Evaluate yourself- if there is something that you need to change don't be afraid to apologize and commit to making it right.

 

Love and blessings,

 

Sadie 

Don’t Let The Holidays Burden Your Marriage and Family Life

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By: Sadie Foster, MA

While the holidays can be a time of great joy and peace, many find that they are times of great stress, depression and anxiety.  Be honest with yourself upfront – attack the issues not each other!  Let’s take a look at some of the issues and consider how to minimize and prevent them. 

What are some of the typical reasons for feeling down this time of year? 

The seasonal changes that occur throughout much of the country. It is reported that during this time of year, with its changes in weather, time, and sunlight many people will experience a decreases in energy, interest in pleasure, healthy sleep patterns, connection with others and overall sadness. 

Memories of lost loved ones.

Most people have the desire to spend the holidays with loved ones.  Some of the most cherished memories are created around this time of year.  It can be very painful to relive some of those memories or create new ones when a loved one is no longer with us. 

Feeling regrets

The holidays falling at the end of the year also serve as a reminder that the yearend has arrived.  There may be uncompleted goals, wished and desires to face.  For some, watching others who seem to be experiencing “perfect happiness” without considering that no life is completely perfect nor without effort, can spark many dark feelings. 

Lack of self care

Now is not the time to skimp on sleep, fill up on junk food, skip meals, over schedule yourself, indulge in unhealthy activities,  skip exercise, or play superman or superwoman.  All of these things are common this time of year and contribute to feelings of stress, depression, and anxiety. 

What can you do to minimize the negative and maximize the positive?

Take care of each other.

Now is an excellent time to get as much sunlight as you can, stick to an exercise routine, get enough sleep, eat healthy foods, make and follow plans, and ask for help when you need it.  As you are a team – lift each other up as well as hold each other accountable. 

Recognize That You and Your Loved Ones May Have Mixed Feelings.

Remember feelings aren’t good or bad – they just are.  Recognize that your feelings may go up and down, or change quickly.  Choose not to let your feelings rule you. 

 

Design Your Holiday

Given your current situation, how would you like your holidays to look?  What experiences would you like to create?  How can you make those things happen?  Planning is crucial to giving yourself the best chance to enjoy the season.

Don’t Be Afraid To Leave Some Things Out

There are lots of different holiday traditions. Some that you may enjoy fully, some that you could do without, and others that just don’t work right now.  Ask yourself as you consider which activities and traditions to keep up with questions like the following to help you decide which activities to let go of for the season.

·         Will we still enjoy the season without it?

·         Are we doing this because we feel we “have” too?

·         Does it cause more stress to participate?

·         Is there a safety risk involved?

·         Is there someone else that can complete this task for us?

·         Do we even like participating? 

 

Concerning Gifts – Remember The Greatest Gift You Can Give is Love.

Try not to allow yourself to be caught in the trap of overspending or feeling guilty because your financial priorities are focused elsewhere.  Do not create debt and  regret  over material things.  If you plan to purchase gifts – set a budget.  Give the gifts of Peace– choosing not to argue over unimportant things. Time – focus on yourself and your loved ones.  Take the time to create cherished memories.  Rest– take breaks without running all over tiring yourself and others out.  The Moment– chose to live right here, right now – not in yesterday, not in tomorrow but right now.  Enjoy the moment – it will never pass this way again.

With love and blessings,

Sadie

Choose To Cherish Time with Your Spouse

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Choose To Cherish Time with Your Spouse

Today is Veterans Day – an official United States holiday to honor all those who have served in the armed forces.  While some may take this day off of work, federal buildings are closed, and some schools are out – the work of our service men and women around the world continues.  Whether we believe in war or not- we can all chose to be grateful and thankful for those who are willing to risk their lives to protect our lives and freedoms.

If you are a military or other serviceperson’s spouse you already know the magnitude of what I’m about to say.  I honor you and thank you for sharing your family with the rest of us.  If you are not – I encourage you to stop for a moment and reflect what life might be like if every day for valid reasons you had to wonder if you would see them anytime soon or your spouse would make it home safely. 

Would you treat your mate any differently?  Would you cherish the time that you had more?  Would you decide to look at things and weigh their worthiness for being upset?   What might you say differently?  Is there anything you would or would not do?  Would you go on a date, would you snuggle closer, would you decide to overlook the little quirks? 

Some of our choosen career and lifestyle choices put us at greater risk for life altering injuries and or death. On this Veterans Day let’s acknowledge and say a prayer for those that sacrifice their time, and families for our country.  Consider for a moment that tomorrow isn’t promised for anyone and decide to cherish and enjoy our loved ones today.   

 

With love and blessings,

 

Sadie

There’s Still Time – Show How Much You Care With This Meaningful Free Gift

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There’s Still Time – Show How Much You Care With This Meaningful

Free  Gift

By: Sadie Foster, MA

 

Still searching for the perfect gift that will show how much you care?  No gift is more powerful or more important than love.

Often those that we love the most are the ones we tell the least.  They may know that we love them, and we may even tell them – but do we tell them often why we love them?  Sometimes a sincere heartfelt compliment about someone’s being is enough to make a person's day or carry them through a difficult moment. 

One of the most valuable gifts I have ever received was a letter from my 4 year old daughter telling me the reasons why she was thankful that I am her mother.  It’s a gift I will never forget.  I have a special gift for you to share with your loved ones.  Use this special Loving Affirmations Kit to create a gift that your loved one will cherish for years to come.  It will cost you little to no money and it’s available to you right now.  Enter your information below to get started now.  Enjoy your family!

Love and Blessings,

Sadie

 

Thanksgiving is Just Around the Corner- What are You Thankful For?

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Thanksgiving is Just Around the Corner- What are You Thankful For?

By: Sadie Foster, MA

The holidays are a busy time of year.  In the business sometimes it is easy to forget to be thankful.  Ever stopped to think about exactly what you are thankful for and if your thankfulness shines through.  Many times we do not show our loved ones just how thankful we are for them.   We are sometimes blinded by the irritations of life instead.  Things like the messy rooms, toys on the floor, forgetfulness, working late – again.  Some of us have had the devastating experience of losing  a loved one expectantly.  Oh how wonderful it would be to hear that too loud of a voice or running in the house, to remind that spouse that today is a special event and they need to leave work on time, to find that items are not where they are supposed to be. 

It’s important to live in a daily place of thankfulness – thankful for the day as is it.  Thankful that you can try again.  Thankful that while you may not feel great, you can still feel.  Thankful that you can tell your loved ones how you feel.

Ways To Say I’m Thankful

A thank you card or note detailing why you are thankful for them

A special time set aside for just the two of you, with the explanation – I saved this time just for us because I am thankful for you.

A list that complete this sentence as many times as you can think of – I am thankful for you because______.

A random act of kindness. 

A small meaningful gift.  Something that shows you are thinking of them specifically – not necessary something expensive. (ex. A favorite  treat, or music)

Do you regularly express thanks?  What’s a memorable way that you have been thanked?  Tell us in the comments below.

Love and blessings,

Sadie

Managing Stress – Does your Family Have A Plan?

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Managing Stress – Does Your Family Have A Plan?

By Sadie Foster, MA

 

Lack of stress management has been linked to heart disease, decreased immune function, behavioral problems, difficulty sleeping, decreased school and or work performance, headaches, stomachaches and many other problems.  You’ve probably heard those things before – but did you realize those things are true for children, teens, and adults?  The skills and coping methods learned in youth, can stick throughout life even if they are not healthy. 

Let’s consider some of the facts.  A report released in November 2010 by the American Psychological Association found many disturbing facts.

While parents report similar sources of stress as the rest of the population (80 percent cite money, 72 percent cite work and 72 percent cite the economy as stressors), many also report that family responsibilities are a significant source of stress (73 percent).

 

Results from the survey suggest that parents feel that they are under a great deal of stress (nearly one-third report feeling this way) and understand the importance of managing it (69 percent say managing stress is important). However, only one-third (32 percent) believe they are doing an excellent or very good job of managing their stress.

While the majority of parents don’t think their children are strongly affected by their stress, children report otherwise.

 

Nearly three-quarters (69 percent) of parents say that their stress has only a slight or no impact on their children, yet 91 percent of children report they know their parent is stressed because they observe a multitude of behaviors, such as yelling, arguing and complaining. 

 

The study went on to find that children, tweens, and teens are all affected greatly by the stress their parents experience as well as the stress from their own lives. 

As a parent, it is crucial to learn to recognize and reduce stress as well as teach the children in the household to do the same.

Your family stress management plan should include

    Defining stress with examples

    Understanding the impact stress can have

    Recognizing what things can cause stress in your lives

    How to find solutions to problems that cause stress

    Where to go for help

    How to develop healthy habits

Decide to make and use a stress management plan for you and your family and enjoy today!

 

Love and Blessings,

 

Sadie

Homemade Marshmallows – The Lesson In The Process

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Gluten Free, Dairy free, Egg free, Soy Free, Corn Free, Sugar Free, Homemade Marshmallows – The Lesson In The Process

By: Sadie Foster, MA

S’mores – in less than 5 hours, really – yikes!  Yesterday, I found out that my daughter’s brownie troop members would be making S’mores over a fire as part of the meeting.   Now while this in an exciting quick treat for many people – for a child with food allergies and hypoglycemia they are normally off limits.  It has been my desire to make alternatives and substitutes so that our children can participate if at all possible.  I had a vague recollection of making marshmallows before – did I succeed?  Was there something off limits in it?  I couldn’t remember.  Graham crackers – yes we make those – but they tend to have higher carbohydrate counts, chocolate –yes maybe we could pull that off in time too – but it tended to melt quickly.  What to do?

We decide to give it our best shot.  My little ones volunteered to be sure the kitchen was clean while I did a little research, and checked my notes.  My neighbor even brought me a missing ingredient.  In the process of making the marshmallows, we made a mess, a frosting, some sort of weird crème, marshmallow crème and finally –marshmallows, a high protein graham cracker, and a chocolate substitute – just the right mix for S’mores! 

What’s the message in all this?

1.       If you have the desire to do something – try your best to make a way.  It may not happen as quickly as you want but keep at it.

2.       Some ‘mistakes’ can turn into something else useful.  We created a few other recipes that we can use on a different day.  Ex. – a new fluffy frosting

3.       Give yourself grace to make mistakes.  During this process, I missed hearing the dog request to go outside over the hum of the mixer. He relived himself on the living room floor.  My son in his excitement ran through the living room, discovering the wet spot – slipping falling and landing inside.  Quite hilarious!  Needless to say there was a pause in the process for bathing, cleanup and sanitizing. 

What everyday challenges have you recently faced that you can find the humor and lesson inside?  Decide to enjoy today!

Love and blessings,

 

Sadie

 




Sadie Foster specializes in taking the mystery out of enjoying health, family relationships and life. Her systems teach the skills most  people were never taught, to overcome challenges and get extra-ordinary results quickly.  Making it simple to enjoy health, enjoy your marriage, enjoy children, and enjoy your life with actionable step by step yet flexible processes.  She has been serving families through counseling and nutritional psychology for the last 14 years. Connect with me on Facebook and Twitter! 

 

Family Date Night – Free Or Low Cost Ideas You May Not Have Tried

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Family Date Night – Free Or Low Cost Ideas You May Not Have Tried

By: Sadie Foster, MA

Does your family have a family date night? (Or day :)  )  A time set aside for everyone in your household to spend quality time together, having fun and building relationships?  I hope so it is an extremely valuable tool and it’s fun!

Many people say they want to have family date time but they have no idea what to do beyond the watch a movie routine.  Try the list of free or low cost family activities below – have an open mind you just might surprise yourself and your family.  Remember that it’s not really about what you do as much as it is about how and why you do it!

1.       Potato sack racing, hide and seek, freeze tag – any motion game.  Don’t let physical limitations stop you. I once watched my  5 year old create a way to play hide and seek with a dear family member in a wheelchair.  She instructed him to find her by making eye contact!

2.       Lightening bug catching- do you remember the thrill of this as a child?  If you don’t live in an area where catching lightening bugs is an option – select something else to catch or spot for an evening of fun.

3.       Sand, snow or stick figure building – pick a season or location.  Your family can build anything – together. 

4.       Board game play – The opportunities here seem to be unlimited.  There are board (and electronic games) for just about every interest!

5.       Cooking together- Even if you don’t like to cook or are short on time this can be fun.  You can go all out and create something grand or do something simpler like make your own pizza, salad, or tacos.

6.       Geocaching – Wikipedia describes geocaching as 'an outdoor treasure-hunting game in which the participants use a Global Positioning System receiver or other navigational techniques to hide and seek containers (called "geocaches" or "caches") anywhere in the world.

7.       Painting portraits –Depending on the age and artistic ability or interest in your home this can vary from finger paints to portrait paining.

8.       Animal watching – Bird watching, an owl walk, find the nest, a trip to the zoo – you decide.

9.       Serving others – There are people all over the world that need help.  As a family why not clean or serve in a shelter or nursing home.  Shop or donate to the needy or do yard work for an elderly neighbor.

10.   Explore the town – you may or may not be able to take a big trip tonight but you can explore your town as if you were a visitor. 

What are your favorite family time activities?  Decide to enjoy you family today! 

 

 

 

Sadie Foster specializes in taking the mystery out of enjoying health, family relationships and life. Her systems teach the skills most  people were never taught, to overcome challenges and get extra-ordinary results quickly.  Making it simple to enjoy health, enjoy your marriage, enjoy children, and enjoy your life with actionable step by step yet flexible processes.  She has been serving families through counseling and nutritional psychology for the last 14 years. Connect with me on Facebook and Twitter!

 

 

 

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Relationships And The Power Of Your Words

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Relationships And The Power Of Your Words



 

By: Sadie Foster, MA

 



 

Think back, with me for just a second.  Think of all the people that you love, the people that you feel the most alive around, the ones you enjoy being with.  How do they treat you?  What do they say to you?  What do you say to them?



 

Words have so much power that you may not realize how much they really have. Have you taken stock of how much power you have and how you are using it?  Let’s take a look at this story.



 

"He began his life with all the classic handicaps and disadvantages. His mother was a dominating woman who found it difficult to love anyone. She gave him no affection, no training and no discipline during his early years.



 

 



 

"When he was 13, a school psychologist commented that he probably didn't even know the meaning of the word "love." During adolescence the girls would have nothing to do with him and he fought with the boys.



 

 



 

"After failing at every pursuit, including a stint in the United States Marine Corps he married a Russian girl, but she also began to hold him in contempt. She could outfight him, and she learned to bully him. Finally, she forced him to leave.



 

 



 

"After days of loneliness, he went home, fell on his knees and literally begged her to take him back. He wept at her feet, but she laughed at him and made fun of his sexual impotency in front of a friend. Finally, he pleaded no more.



 

 



 

No one wanted him.



 

 



 

No one had ever wanted him. He was perhaps the most rejected man of his time.



 

 



 

"The next day, he was a strangely different man. He arose, went to the garage, and took down a rifle he had hidden there. He carried it with him to his newly acquired job at a book-storage building. And from a window on the sixth floor of that building, shortly after noon, November 22, 1963, he sent two shells crashing into the head of President John Fitzgerald Kennedy.



 

 



 

"Lee Harvey Oswald, the rejected, unlovable failure, killed the man who, more than any other person on earth — embodied all the success, beauty, wealth, and family affection which Oswald lacked. In firing that rifle, he utilized the one skill he had learned in his entire, miserable lifetime.*



 

 



 

Not that pain and suffering justifies harming another person, or excuses his actions but what a life!  I realize there is all kind of controversy around the assassination of JFK, so please don’t get lost in that.  This could be about anyone. For the sake of learning, let’s consider the story to be true.



 

 



 

How many of our children, regardless to their disadvantages are starving for love, affection, and discipline? How many children do you think only hear negative talk? How many could it be said of, have never had anyone teach them the meaning of love? If you are around children in any capacity – you have the huge opportunity to bless them and speak joy into their lives simply by speaking kind words.



 

 



 

What about the wife in this story?  I don’t know what life must have been like for her.  Maybe he was mean and difficult to live with – I truly have no idea.  From this vignette we do know how she treated her husband.  She fought him, she bullied him, and she rejected him. She laughed at him when he was down, made fun of him, and embarrassed him in front of others.  What a life!  How do you treat the man in your life? It is often said that people love you for how they feel when they are with you.  How do you imagine your words make your husband feel?

 



 

In honor of our wedding anniversary, I will leave you with ten loving words to consider sharing with those you love. 



 

 



 

1.   I appreciate you.



 

2.   I love your smile.



 

3.   I love spending time with you.



 

4.   There is no place I would rather be, than right here with you.



 

5.   I love the feel of your touch.



 

6.   You are important to me.



 

7.   I believe in you.



 

8.   You’re the best.



 

9.   You’re my king.



 

10. I Love you



 

 



 

Speak truth and life into your relationships.  Decide to enjoy your family, enjoy your marriage, and enjoy your life.



 

 



 

Love and blessings,



 

 



 

Sadie

 

 

 

Sadie Foster specializes in taking the mystery out of enjoying health, family relationships and life. Her systems teach the skills most  people were never taught, to overcome challenges and get extra-ordinary results quickly.  Making it simple to enjoy health, enjoy your marriage, enjoy children, and enjoy your life with actionable step by step yet flexible processes.  She has been serving families through counseling and nutritional psychology for the last 14 years. Connect with me on Facebook and Twitter!



 

 



 

 



 

 



 

 

* James Dobson’s, Hide or Seek [1974]

I Don’t Care About The Programs- I Just Want My Pictures Back- Protecting What’s Important

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I Don’t Care About The Programs- I Just Want My Pictures Back-

Protecting What’s Important

 

By: Sadie Foster, MA

Have you ever lost something that in the back of your mind you knew you should have worked harder to protect?

Just the other day, I went downstairs into the basement and saw that out desktop computer was not powering on –hard disk error it said.  Yilkes!  I do not like those words.  The computer is older, it’s been around for over six years.  We use it mainly as the server- to network the other computers, printers, and gadgets in our home. For a while now, thoughts have crossed my mind like –  wonder when the last time I did a backup & are those documents backed up somewhere.  Because all of my recent  (last few years) documents and picture are on a different computer – I don’t think much about what is on there.  Honestly – I don’t remember.  Yet, a few days ago when the error hit – my thoughts quickly went to – I don’t care about the programs I just want my pictures.  You see this was the computer we used after the birth of my daughter.  I’m sure I have copies somewhere of most of the important pictures in various places but how can I know for sure what is on that disk if I can’t see it.

The programs are tools to make life easier, get a job done etc.  But the pictures – those are the memories – the things that make life great.  I should not have ignored or put off the thoughts of verifying backup and checking to see what was on the drive.  I could have worked harder to insure what was important and of value to me was secure. 

Are your family relationships much like the pictures on my hard drive?  Now that I’m in real danger of losing them – I’m wishing I had done things differently.  Checking the backup plan, dedicating time to ensure it was taken care of, regular maintenance, looking for signs that something might need attention, refusing to take it for granted. 

Most people don’t want to look back later and see what they could have done.  It’s often painful. Save yourself the potential pain and struggle – take the necessary steps now to protect what is important to you.

Make time even if you don’t think you have time

Do the regular maintenance

Treat your loved ones with respect

Look for signs that something may be off- do something about it. 

Our relationships are what make life enjoyable.  The things that most people don’t want to lose.  Decide today to do what it takes to keep them protected in happy healthy place.  Enjoy today!

Love and blessings,

Sadie

Sadie Foster specializes in taking the mystery out of enjoying health, family relationships and life. Her systems teach the skills most people were never taught, to overcome challenges and get extra-ordinary results quickly.  Making it simple to enjoy health, enjoy your marriage, enjoy children, and enjoy your life with actionable step by step yet flexible processes.  She has been serving families through counseling and nutritional psychology for the last 14 years.

Life Is A Story – What Is Being Written On Your Pages?

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Life Is A Story – What Is Being Written On Your Pages?

By: Sadie Foster, MA

During my time as a hospital nursing assistant,  I remember sitting often with an elderly couple we’ll call Kate and Joe.  Despite things looking extremely grim, sounds of joy, peace and love were often found escaping from her room.  Kate had been battling cancer for several months.  They had not found out about the cancer early, there was little hope from the doctors as it had spread everywhere.  Kate had already made the decision she would enjoy what was left of her life in peace with her loved ones, without further chemotherapy treatment.

If you could see the smiles the gentle touches, and loving looks between the two of them and their children.  If you could hear the love in their voices, the smiles in laughter, the roaring laughter from some of the memories or feel the warmth from their touches – you’d never suspect she was so close to death.  They carried on as if the hospital was a five star hotel.  Even the requests for needed items had special names like wine for water and moo milk for IV.

The couple enjoyed telling me stories of adventure; trying new things, mistakes, and accomplishments from their life together and I enjoyed hearing them.   While Kate was alive – she was able her story.  After she was gone, Joe, her children and those that knew her  told pieces of her story in her absence.

What stories of your life are being told now? 

Often in the daily routine of life, we don’t take notice of the day to day story we are creating.  Right now this very instant there is a story being made.  Where are you right now?  How have you interacted with your loved ones so far today?  Have you left anything out that you want to add?  Have you added anything you wish you could delete?

While life doesn’t have an erase button- we can always attempt to make things right.  To correct mistakes, apologize for wrong doings, and work diligently to rebuild.  You are in complete control of your actions and your words.  You are the star of your own story.  You may not be able to control all of the things that happen to you or come your way, yet you are in complete control of how you respond.  What do you want your husband and children to remember about you.  How do you want them to feel when they think of you today?  How do you want to feel about yourself?  Decide today to play an active role in the story of your life – write your own script.  Enjoy today!

Love and blessings,

Sadie

 

Sadie Foster specializes in taking the mystery out of enjoying health, family relationships and life. Her systems teach the skills most people were never taught, to overcome challenges and get extra-ordinary results quickly.  Making it simple to enjoy health, enjoy your marriage, enjoy children, and enjoy your life with actionable step by step yet flexible processes.  She has been serving families through counseling and nutritional psychology for the last 14 years.

Do You Have A Real Plan For Your Family – Tips for Having the Family Life You Want

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Do You Have A Real Plan For Your Family – Tips for having the family life you want

By; Sadie Foster, MA

Health insurance, life insurance, eye exams, dental checkups, physical exams, savings accounts, college funds – specific actionable plans, steps or activities in place in an attempt to have the family life you want.  What is the family life you want?  Have you ever really set down and thought about it?

The so called American dream is often quoted as 2.5 children, a white picket fence, and a dog.  If that is your dream – what are you going to do with it?  Are you dreaming of a happy family?  What is a happy family/ how exactly does that look to you? 

Many people dream of finding that one person to spend forever with.  The wedding date is set; the arrangements are made – often a year in the planning.  For some, the quest for children begins, healthy living, healthy eating, infertility treatments etc.  Planning for the birth or adoption, learning to breastfeed, selecting proper foods etc. may come next.  Starting a family seems to have logical steps. Things with a focus and items to act upon.  What many people find is after the marriage has occurred, after the baby has been a part of the family for a while – there are no typical next steps that are focused on.  Day to day living of life happens with or without goals.

Without a focus, a plan – things just flow.  The question is – are things flowing the way you want them to flow.  Whatever is in front of the family is what get attention. Sometimes the togetherness is lost.    It is sometimes accepted that “this” is just how it is.

What do you want your family life to look like?  It’s a simple enough question that requires careful answering.  A happy fun family is not quite the answer we are looking for.  Your answer should be specific.  It should be so specific that you can measure if your family is obtaining it.  As an example – I want my family to be fit is a nice dream but it is not really a goal.  How will you know that you are working towards you goal?  Instead you might say it is important for our family to walk together after dinner at least 3 times a week. I challenge you to write down you top three family goals.  Once you know your top three actionable goals – the next step is to do the work.  Complete those tasks or activities you listed.  Come tell me about your top three family goals on my Facebook wall. 

Decide today to enjoy your family. 

 

Love and blessings,

 

 

Sadie

Sadie Foster specializes in taking the mystery out of enjoying health, family relationships and life. Her systems teach the skills most people were never taught, to overcome challenges and get extra-ordinary results quickly.  Making it simple to enjoy health, enjoy your marriage, enjoy children, and enjoy your life with actionable step by step yet flexible processes.  She has been serving families through counseling and nutritional psychology for the last 14 years. 

 

Your Attitude And Behavior – Predicting Divorce

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Your Attitude And Behavior – Predicting Divorce

By: Sadie Foster, MA

Did you know that there were certain attitudes that were predictive of divorce?  If you knew there were things that you could avoid would you avoid them?   Over the course of two decades, a psychologist at the University of Washington studied more than 2000 married couples.  Dr. John Gottman, discovered specific patterns that with an accuracy rate of 94% could predict which marriages will succeed and which will likely fail.  He calls them the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.   These behaviors and attitudes are serious and need to be addressed for the health and well being of marriage.  Let’s take a closer look.

Criticism

In a disagreement, is it important to you to determine who is at fault?  Do you make statements such as “you always_________” or “you never_________”?

This attitude and interaction style is that of criticism.  It involves attacking your spouses’ personality or character.   The typical purpose for the attack is to make one’s self right and the spouse wrong. This argument is full of generalizations and often comparison to other people.   

Contempt

Do you frequently call your spouse out of their name, mock them, use negative body language like rolling of your eyes or use hostile sarcasm?

This attack is on your spouse’s sense of who they are.  It is a form of abuse.  The intent is to harm them – to “mess with their mind”, to insult and hurt them deeply.

Defensiveness

Do you find yourself focusing on what you have to say with considering your partners? Are you likely to make excuses or blame everything and everyone else but yourself for your actions? 

The attitude of defensivness is one that prevents intimacy and communication on many levels.  It’s when one feels that they are a victim that must protect themes and prevent an attack.  Something as simple as eating the last of something becomes a big issue.  It is important to that person to explain that only ate it because the other person didn’t do what they were supposed to do  – buy more as soon as it ran out, or some other reason.  An argument is likely to be filled with statements like “that’s not true you are the one who…. Or “ I wouldn’t have if only you….”. 

Stonewalling

This attitude and behavior pattern involves checking out or withdrawing from the relationship to avoid conflict.  It’s the cold shoulder, the silent treatment, acting as if they don’t care.    The other partner often says things like talk to me – don’t shut down.  They are constantly requesting of the one that is stonewalling to tell them what is wrong.  The stonewaller may remove themselves mentally or physically from the relationship.  Sometimes the other partner gets to the point where they give up trying to talk about it because they feel there is no use. 

Can you identify any of these patterns or behaviors in your marriage?  Want to learn more about enjoying your marriage and family life? Join us on Facebook.  Decide today to make a change.

Love and blessings,

Sadie


  

Do You Really Understand?

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Do you Really Understand?

By: Sadie Foster, MA

I’ll never forget the first time I sat in a session with a particular couple and watched them argue passionately over a point.  They volleyed back and forth.  Explaining how the other person was so wrong.  Telling how the other person didn’t get it, how they never really tried.  How upset they were that the other person didn’t understand them. It was loud, it was intense, and if it had been a television show I might have laughed.  Why?  Because they were arguing the same point and didn’t realize it.  They were so busy trying to make their own point that they didn’t realize their partner was saying the same thing a different way.

So many of life’s conversations are like this – parallel but not truly on the same course.  Here’s an example of two friends talking:

Friend A:  Guess what!  We are going to Disney World around Sally and Johnny’s birthday in August!

Friend B: I’ve been to Disney World!

A: Taking a family trip is something I’ve wanted to do for so long.  I think my children will love it.

B: It’s soooo many people there

A: Little Johnny just loves cars, and Sally can’t wait to see that castle!

B: When are you going – I hope it’s in the fall.  The best time is when it’s not too hot.  We went in July – whew that was rough.

A:  I think Orlando is about an hour from Datonya Beach – that will be fun too!

B:  We drove down to the beach when I went too. 

Can you see how it looks like they are having a conversation?  The general topic is the same, yet somehow it doesn’t seem that they are connecting on all the points.  What points are lost? The timing of the trip is lost, the plans and goals of the family are not shared, and questions are not asked. Friend A might feel a little worried about the heat.  Friend B didn’t get to share her experiences, give a few helpful tips and answer questions her friend might have had.  Friend A might feel like B wasn’t excited for her.  Friend B might feel like A wasn’t willing to accept her advice and experience. 

The goal of true communication is for all parties involved to truly connect, to be understood and to understand.  Seek first to understand. 

Now many of us think that we do understand, yet we already know what is best for the other person.  Consider this example.

Let’s say a wife is planning a date night with her husband.  She wants to do something new and exciting.  She thinks kayaking sounds like a wonderful idea.  When she presents it to her husband – Let’s go kayaking!  His response is no – I don’t want to do that.  She may feel hurt or as if her ideas are never accepted or considered.  She might feel like she is always the one to come up with the ideas, like she doesn’t feel like being the only one to work at it – so she drops it.  What happens then?  If they are like many couples – nothing happens; life as usual is what’s next.  No date is scheduled, her husband doesn’t understand why she wants to go and she doesn’t understand why he doesn’t want to.  She may even feel he doesn’t want to go out with her. 

But what could have happened if they had both sought to understand?  

She might have found that her husband was thinking kayaking was white river rafting – fast, requiring a lot of strength, and far away.  She might have found out that he was feeling self conscious, overweight and like he would not have been able to protect her if something happened.

In addition to learning about kayaking on a calm shallow lake, he might have found out that his wife craved something new and different with him.  That she missed the adventures they had during their earlier years.  That she was beginning to feel he didn’t care about her as much as he did before.

In your parenting, have you considered the impact truly understanding why your child wants or doesn't want to do something?  Have you helped them work through a fear or mistaken belief? 

Seeking to understand first can completely change the course of a conversation and a relationship.  It impacts work, family, parenting – everything.  Decide to seek to understand first and enjoy today!

Love & blessings,

 

Family Life – Actions Speak

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Family Life – Actions Speak

By: Sadie Foster, MA

It is common in our society to hear the phrase actions speak louder than words – yet what exactly does it mean that actions speak?  How do our actions really affect others and ourselves?  One of the most common parenting and relationship problems I am asked about has to do with listening. 

Parents tell me things like:

“They just don’t listen”

“I have to say the same thing over and over again”

“I have to yell in order for them to do it”


I hear from husbands and wives:

“I have to nag him to get things done”

“She never honors my requests unless I ask at the last minute”

“They never help me”

“They don’t hear me unless I’m crying or threatening to leave”


In other relationships:

“They always dump extra work on me”

“If say no they either ignore me or talk me into it”

“I have to do it all”


The truth, as painful as it is for most of us – is that we have trained people around us by our actions and lack of action not to listen, not to respond, and not to believe us. 

Consider this – you drive through a village where the posted speed limit for the entire village is 20 mph.  If you were guaranteed that you would not be pulled over or ticketed by the police, get hurt or hurt anyone else or cause any type of harm – would you be super diligent about staying under 20mph?  Studies have shown that most of us would not.    Why – because the sign says 20mph but there is no action to support it or back it up.  In a sense it is out of sight out of mind.

So how does this apply to you and enjoying your life?  Let’s start with saying no.  If your mouth says no and your action is to complete the task for the person that asked, or to allow whatever request your child made after being asked a few more times – your actions have spoken.  They have taught that person that you will do what they ask and that you don’t really mean what you say. 

When you inform your husband, children, or others – that you can longer take last minute requests yet consistently fill requests for project help, special meals, or trips to wherever – your actions have spoken. 

Let’s look at yelling.  If you make a request over and over and over again and no one moves until you start yelling, unfortunately your actions have taught that you don’t really mean it until you yell. 

If you tell a loved one they are important to you yet everything else comes first in your time – your actions speak.

What are your actions saying?  What do you want them to say?  Say and do what you mean.  Decide to enjoy today!


Love and blessings,

Sadie

Sadie Foster specializes in taking the mystery out of having enjoyable family relations.  Her systems teach the skills most  people were never taught, to overcome challenges and get extra-ordinary results quickly.  Making it simple to enjoy your marriage, enjoy children, and enjoy your life with actionable step by step yet flexible processes.  She has been serving families through counseling for the last 14 years. 

Your Family Life vs Your Priorties

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Your Family Life vs Your Priorities

by: Sadie Foster, MA

 

I once heard a great story about a dad, his electronic planner, and his child.  This dad carefully explained how important his planner was to his young child after it was almost destroyed by accident. He went into great detail about how it how it held the names, how to get in touch with, and special times to meet with very important people.   He shared how things that he had to do and important things he never wanted to forget where all stored in that tiny little tool.  His child responded with I’m sorry daddy –I understand why it is so important to you. Can you show me where I am in it?  Imagine his shock and the feeling that washed over him when he realized his beloved child, one of the main reasons he worked so hard – would not find their name in the tool.  Imagine how that child felt.

If we spend the most time, most money, and most energy on the things that matter most to us – what are you habits saying?  Now I’ve heard the argument before – that’s not true!  I HAVE to work – I HAVE obligations that I MUST tend to.  True – income must come from somewhere to provide for our loved ones, yet there is a lack of balance in our society.  How many times have you heard yourself say I can’t today or I don’t have time or maybe another time?  Does “another time” ever come?  Is it way later if it shows up? 

It is true that many of the things we are obligated to do have major consequences should we choose not to do them.  We might lose a job, miss a deal, get a ticket, or be the cause of something not going well.  Most people don’t realize that not making time spent with our love ones a priority also has major consequences.   Typically these consequences are more subtle, easy to blame on something else and build over time.  Ever wonder how a child grows up and the parents don’t know them? How couples wake up one day and realize they don’t really know their spouses anymore and they are not sure if they like the person they see? How respect is lost?  It has been proven that lack of priory, lack of time spent, and lack of communication are major contributors to relationship break down.  When a relationship and the people in it are treated as a major priority – its members can face and defeat challenges that come their way.   Decide today to evaluate your priorities – does the way you spend your time, your money and your loyalty match what is most important to you?

 

Happy Family Relationships – Do You Really Want It?

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Do You Really Want It?

By: Sadie Foster, MA

How bad do you want it? What are you willing to do to get it? What are you willing to give up? Let’s be honest with ourselves – most people spend way more time preparing for a wedding, special event or sporting event than they do for parenting, life or marriage! How many courses, seminars, trainings, and mentorships have you actively pursued and worked through? Do you regularly and routinely work on your skills, evaluate yourself and your family – address what needs to be worked on or do you just go along day by day?

My friends, your marriage and family relationships are two of the most important things in your world.  They have the ability to have the most impact on you and you on them.   Do you leave the maintenance of your car, your technology equipment, or your home up to chance?  Do you give them fuel, apply updates, recharge batteries, change filters, and empty the trash?  If you expect them to work – I’m sure you do the maintenance tasks.  Why then would we as a society expect two of our most important assets – our marriage and family relationships to work at peak performance without focus, knowledge, and deliberate action?  Seems silly when you think about it that way doesn’t it? 

Please don’t consider this a reason to beat yourself up for the things you haven’t done.  Consider it a friendly reminder, a word of encouragement.  Decide today to do the self evaluation, make the changes necessary, and gain the skills to do the work to get the life you want. 

A happy family life takes work.  Work is not a bad word.  It does not have to be something you dread.  It can be fun it can be an adventure.  Don’t buy into the belief that all work is terrible and something you have to hate to do.  A beautiful thing about work is when you do it well you are usually rewarded for it.  How much greater will the reward be when the people you are working for and with love you and want the best for you?

Where do you start- right where you are.  The most beautiful painting starts with a single stroke.  Don’t let anything or anyone keep you from reaching your family life goals.  

Love and blessings,

Sadie

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Sadie Foster specializes in taking the mystery out of having enjoyable family relationships.  Her systems teach the skills most of us were never taught to overcome challenges and get extra-ordinary results quickly. Making it simple to enjoy your family, enjoy your children, and enjoy your life with actionable step by step yet flexible processes.  She has been serving families through counseling for the last 14 years.

Say I Love You

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Say I love you

One day  around 6:30am I stood in the kitchen fixing breakfast with my little girl.  She’d only been awake and in the kitchen with me for about ten minutes.  I don’t remember the exact details of the dream she was telling me about but  I remember saying,  do you know how much I love you?  I was expecting our familiar fun conversation of describing how much we loved each other.  You know the ones – I love you deeper than the depth of the ocean.  Well I love you more than the sky is high.  That morning her initial response was different. 

She said No.  I said you don’t… Why not?  She said because you haven’t told me yet today.

There are many ways to express our love to others.  How often do you think about how you are intentionally expressing love to you child? Saying I love You and building up our children through the power of words, is one of the many great responsibilities we have been given as parents.

Consider these quotes:

“The power of life and death is in the tongue” Provebs 18:21

Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs. –Pearl Strachan

An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.” Prov. 12:25 (NIV)

 “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” Mark Twain

Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. –Jesus Christ

What does it mean to affirm?

  • To declare positively or firmly
  • To  maintain to be true.
  •  To support or uphold the validity of;
  • To confirm.

 

Children want the approval and love of their parents.  They want and need to hear – and believe it when you say:  You are enough and I love you for who you are.  Imagine the impact you can have on a child’s self esteem, value, worth and belief of themselves.  The next time you want to lift your child up and I love you, and another positive affirmation. Keep the focus on who they are, not what they did.   Here’s a few to get you started.

 

15  Ways To Affirm Your Child

 

You are unique and special

You are creative

You are a great problem solver

You are a special gift to me

You are smart

You are a great listener

You have many gifts and talents

You are awesome

I have so much fun with you

I am proud of you

I love spending time with you

You are brave

You are beautiful

You are wonderful

You are amazing

 

Enjoy Today!

 

Love & Blessings,

Sadie

Sometimes You Have To Get Rid Of The Weeds

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[display_podcast] Sometimes You Have to Get Rid of the Weeds – Even if You Like Them.

 

Weed – Any plant growing in cultivated ground to the injury of the crop or desired vegetation, or to the disfigurement of the place; an unsightly, useless, or injurious plant. [1913 Webster]

For the last couple of weeks – I have been searching for a safe way to get rid of the dandelions in our yard without using toxic pesticides.  With all the reports on the effects of these chemicals on children – I’m thinking the less exposure to something that could potentially cause trouble the better.   Although I have found some solutions to this issue – apparently prevention was my best bet.  Do you realize there are weeds in your marriage and family life?  Friends, activities, and habits that need to be dug out by the roots or destroyed.   Let’s take a deeper look.

First let me admit -there are things that I like about dandelions.  I love their bright yellow color, that they are packed with nutrition and can be used for food and tea, the look of joy on a child’s face as they blow the seeds, and that my children regularly pick bouquets for me.

The weeds in our lives have things we like about them too.  We might like the look of them, the temporary pleasure they give, the way they make us feel, or what they allow us to avoid. 

So what’s so bad about dandelions?

Dandelions like the weeds in our lives are tricky -they take over the yard, bees and wasps hover near them, they close up and hide if the sun is not shining brightly on them- giving the appearance of not being so bad, they are hard to remove,  a moment of pleasure ( blowing the seeds – will produce more)  they may be  cute when they are small but as they grow they are unsightly and scary.

So what are the weeds in your life?

Resisting setting or following  a plan, unforgiveness, lack of exercise, unhealthy eating habits, negative thinking, meanness, negative people, wasteful spending, negative influences, laziness, self doubt, lack of relationship – the list could go on forever.  Most of us know in our hearts and it’s confirmed by prayer what the weeds in our lives are that must go.

Weeds use up resources like time, money, energy, and brain power.  Doesn’t that sound like a dandelion?  Its broad leaves block the things essential to the life of the grass- sun, water, and air thereby stealing the energy the grass needs.   Digging them out costs time and weed control products cost money. 

 

So how do you get rid of weeds?

  • Learn about the weed you are working against
  • Stop them before they start growing
  • Deal with them as soon as you see them and before they spread
  • Use the proper tools
  • Be diligent and persistent
  • Ask for help when you need it
  • Stay on the watch for new growth
  • Take good care of areas not yet infested
  • Be accountable to someone

 

I can’t say that my battle with dandelions is over, but I can say that I am taking the steps and actions necessary so that my family can enjoy the yard.   Will you decide today that you will work to get the weeds out of your marriage and family relationships?  I’d love to support  you and help you with your desire to  enjoy your marriage,  your children and your life. Come on over to my Facebook page and tell me right now what You would enjoy most in your family relationships! Click here now to be taken to my Facebook page!

 

Enjoy Today!

Love & Blessings,

Sadie

 

(If you want to learn about natural ways to get rid of dandelions, I heard of success with vinegar, boiling water, and a dandelion tool.  I've tried  the tool – it worked well.  This article has more ideas)

Your Best Mother’s Day

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 Mother’s Day is quickly approaching.  It was designed to be a special day that celebrates mothers by letting them know how important, loved, cherished and appreciated they are.  Surveys have found that many moms do not feel especially cherished, loved and appreciated on this day.  In fact many feel stressed, overworked, and guilty.  Many people blame our society’s commercialism for taking away the true meaning of this special day.  While I feel there is some merit to this claim, I must say, we mother’s play a large part in why this day (and other days for that matter) is not ideal in the eyes of many mothers.   *gasp* – I know that is not a popular sentiment, keep reading I’ll tell you how to make this the best Mother’s Day Ever in 3 easy steps.

Over the years, I‘ve heard countless mothers tell me things they didn’t like about Mother’s day.  One mother of 4 shared a mouthful when she said this:

 I know it is the thought that counts but secretly this is what I don't like about Mother’s day:

 I dislike the lame excuse my husband gives for rushing out with the kids Saturday night to by a last minute card while I do the dinner dishes and clean up the house.  I don’t really like the white rose bouquet because they die and remind me of when my grandmother passed.  I don’t like rushing to get everyone out the door for church on time.  While I do love and respect my Mother –in-Law, I’d rather not spend every Mother’s day at her favorite crowded restaurant for brunch.  While I enjoy being with my entire family I don’t really like having to cook for 15+ people and clean up after dinner.  I dislike the way I look in what few pictures I’m in. I don’t like that at the end of the day, I’m exhausted and I have to get up and do regular life on Monday morning.  Worse yet – I feel guilty for feeling this way instead of being grateful. 

 

Do you want to know what I told her?  The same thing I’m going to recommend here – change it.  How?  Follow the steps below.

Your Best Mother's Day Plan

Step One:  Identify  A) what makes you truly feel loved, appreciated, and honored.  B) What things make you feel stressed dishonored, unappreciated or guilty?

Step Two: Decide which things you need to do ahead of time to make Mother’s Day great.   Make time in your schedule to do those things ahead of time. Be sure to do more of A and less or none of B from step one.   

Step Three:  Tell Them!  This one is huge.  While it would be nice if husbands and others figured out the details on their own, we really can’t expect them to read minds.  Hints and clues don’t count. What if there is no one to tell?  Do it yourself – plan your own special day. 

So what happened to our Mother of 4 from above?  She informed her family of what she really wanted. 

Mother’s day brunch is eaten at a restaurant with her mother and mother-in-law on Saturday where she honors them.  She requested handmade cards from the children and a handwritten note of appreciation from her husband.  The entire family works together to clean the house on Saturday afternoon at which time the kitchen closes.  The next day’s breakfast and lunch is prepared in advance.  She provides her husband with a list of items she would like purchased for them to select a gift to buy her.  She has Saturday evening to herself to spend as she pleases while her husband and children eat and do an activity outside the home.  On Sunday, she sleeps in while her family gets dressed from the clothes she picked out Saturday.  She takes the time to look her best and takes a picture with her children.  Dinner is prepared on the grill by her husband.   At the end of the day she is happy and relaxed.

For those of you looking for the perfect gift to give –  how about telling her you want to make it the best day ever.  Tell her in addition to what you are thinking, you'd like to ask her for some pointers on what would really make her day special.

Will you use these steps to make this your best Mother’s Day?  Tell me what you really want for Mother’s Day and what you plan to do in the comments below.

Enjoy Today!

Love & Blessings,

Sadie