Relationships And The Power Of Your Words
By: Sadie Foster, MA
Think back, with me for just a second. Think of all the people that you love, the people that you feel the most alive around, the ones you enjoy being with. How do they treat you? What do they say to you? What do you say to them?
Words have so much power that you may not realize how much they really have. Have you taken stock of how much power you have and how you are using it? Let’s take a look at this story.
"He began his life with all the classic handicaps and disadvantages. His mother was a dominating woman who found it difficult to love anyone. She gave him no affection, no training and no discipline during his early years.
"When he was 13, a school psychologist commented that he probably didn't even know the meaning of the word "love." During adolescence the girls would have nothing to do with him and he fought with the boys.
"After failing at every pursuit, including a stint in the United States Marine Corps he married a Russian girl, but she also began to hold him in contempt. She could outfight him, and she learned to bully him. Finally, she forced him to leave.
"After days of loneliness, he went home, fell on his knees and literally begged her to take him back. He wept at her feet, but she laughed at him and made fun of his sexual impotency in front of a friend. Finally, he pleaded no more.
No one wanted him.
No one had ever wanted him. He was perhaps the most rejected man of his time.
"The next day, he was a strangely different man. He arose, went to the garage, and took down a rifle he had hidden there. He carried it with him to his newly acquired job at a book-storage building. And from a window on the sixth floor of that building, shortly after noon, November 22, 1963, he sent two shells crashing into the head of President John Fitzgerald Kennedy.
"Lee Harvey Oswald, the rejected, unlovable failure, killed the man who, more than any other person on earth — embodied all the success, beauty, wealth, and family affection which Oswald lacked. In firing that rifle, he utilized the one skill he had learned in his entire, miserable lifetime.*
Not that pain and suffering justifies harming another person, or excuses his actions but what a life! I realize there is all kind of controversy around the assassination of JFK, so please don’t get lost in that. This could be about anyone. For the sake of learning, let’s consider the story to be true.
How many of our children, regardless to their disadvantages are starving for love, affection, and discipline? How many children do you think only hear negative talk? How many could it be said of, have never had anyone teach them the meaning of love? If you are around children in any capacity – you have the huge opportunity to bless them and speak joy into their lives simply by speaking kind words.
What about the wife in this story? I don’t know what life must have been like for her. Maybe he was mean and difficult to live with – I truly have no idea. From this vignette we do know how she treated her husband. She fought him, she bullied him, and she rejected him. She laughed at him when he was down, made fun of him, and embarrassed him in front of others. What a life! How do you treat the man in your life? It is often said that people love you for how they feel when they are with you. How do you imagine your words make your husband feel?
In honor of our wedding anniversary, I will leave you with ten loving words to consider sharing with those you love.
1. I appreciate you.
2. I love your smile.
3. I love spending time with you.
4. There is no place I would rather be, than right here with you.
5. I love the feel of your touch.
6. You are important to me.
7. I believe in you.
8. You’re the best.
9. You’re my king.
10. I Love you
Speak truth and life into your relationships. Decide to enjoy your family, enjoy your marriage, and enjoy your life.
Love and blessings,
Sadie Foster specializes in taking the mystery out of enjoying health, family relationships and life. Her systems teach the skills most people were never taught, to overcome challenges and get extra-ordinary results quickly. Making it simple to enjoy health, enjoy your marriage, enjoy children, and enjoy your life with actionable step by step yet flexible processes. She has been serving families through counseling and nutritional psychology for the last 14 years. Connect with me on Facebook and Twitter!
* James Dobson’s, Hide or Seek